Being successful, capable, and outwardly confident doesn’t always mean feeling at ease on the inside. Many LGBTQ+ professionals live visible lives — in their work, relationships, or communities — while carrying pressures that aren’t always acknowledged or understood.
You might be doing well professionally, managing responsibility, and appearing grounded, yet privately holding anxiety, shame, burnout, or a sense of disconnection. Perhaps you’ve learned to be adaptable, self-reliant, or emotionally contained in order to succeed, leaving little space to explore how you actually feel.
Therapy can offer a place where those layers don’t need to be managed or explained — just explored.
I offer online therapy for LGBTQ+ professionals across the UK.
For many LGBTQ+ adults, professional success exists alongside experiences that have shaped identity quietly and over time. These aren’t always dramatic or obvious, but they can influence how you relate to work, intimacy, and yourself.
You might recognise some of the following:
Feeling accomplished yet emotionally distant or guarded
Carrying internalised shame or self-criticism
Navigating visibility while protecting yourself
Managing success alongside imposter syndrome
Struggling with intimacy, connection, or vulnerability
Feeling pressure to “have it together”
Not knowing where you’re allowed to rest
Often these patterns developed as intelligent adaptations — ways of staying safe, accepted, or successful. Therapy offers a space to understand them with care, rather than pushing yourself to be different.
Therapy isn’t about fixing who you are. It’s about creating space to explore how you became who you are, and whether the ways you’ve adapted still serve you now.
Working therapeutically can help you:
Understand the impact of early and ongoing experiences of difference
Explore identity without reducing it to labels
Loosen patterns of self-monitoring or emotional containment
Develop greater ease in relationships and intimacy
Separate achievement from self-worth
Feel more grounded and present in your life
For many LGBTQ+ professionals, therapy becomes a place where authenticity feels possible without risk.
I bring both professional training and lived experience to my work. As a gay man living with HIV, I have an understanding of how identity, visibility, and survival can intersect in complex ways. This informs how I work — not through assumptions, but through attentiveness and care.
While LGBTQ+ identity may be central to our work, it doesn’t have to be the only focus. Therapy is shaped by what matters to you, at your pace, in a space that doesn’t require explanation or justification.
This work may be a good fit if you:
Identify as LGBTQ+ and work in a professional or visible role
Are capable and functioning, yet feel emotionally constrained
Want a space that feels thoughtful, adult, and non-performative
Are interested in deeper, relational therapy rather than quick fixes
It may be less suitable if you’re seeking directive coaching or short-term techniques without exploration.
Many LGBTQ+ professionals come to therapy not because something is “wrong”, but because coping and succeeding has started to feel costly. Therapy can help before things reach breaking point.
Yes. Online therapy offers consistency, privacy, and flexibility, which many professionals find particularly supportive.
Not necessarily. LGBTQ+ identity may be part of the work, but therapy is guided by what feels most relevant to you.
Yes. Therapy can be a space to explore visibility, concealment, and choice without pressure or judgement.
